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“Do you want your reputation to be tarnished? a man would not make this move unless he is ‘invited’!”

I just arrived to the country after many years studying in a European country and after a few years of the end of the war. Full with motivation and enthusiasm, I was lucky to find a job in a governmental institution, where I had to mount a lab. from scratch. Because of that, the presence of a handy man was kind of necessary at all times! so we got used to each other though within the professional limits.It is useful to say that this handy man was very close to the management for his diligent services.

One eid came and he wanted to greet me. I extended my Hand to shake his, but I felt that he did not like this or considered it as not enough for all what he did to my lab (it was his duty). He said: you think I cannot take a kiss from you? I felt it inappropriate to kiss him or simply I did not want to kiss him! He took my hand, pulled it towards him and pulled me with it, tried to kiss me and in the same token touched my breast with his other big hand!!

I ran like a crazy to the the Director’s office. It was obvious from my look, voice and colour that I’ve lived something horrible! but the director tried to undermine it.

I went to the disciplinary council for civil servants where I met a woman and I was still under the shock! May be I have to be grateful that she believed me! She said: Do you want your reputation to be tarnished and be subjected to investigations and Q&As?? you are still a young lady (bint)! Yes, this is how harassment is treated in Lebanon!

when back to the office I was told that the Director subtracted 3 working days from the wage of that handy man! wow! how cheap this harassment was!! I was not able anyway to confirm or see a proof about this.

Later on, I met with the Director General who called me to his office, not to comfort me or kind of apologize! but rather to deepen the knife in me. He said, I do not think a man would make this move unless he is ‘invited’ …. That was another harassment isn’t it?? in my heart I said Tfeh!!

Me, the one who lived in Europe to get my Master degree and PhD, came to Lebanon to express my needs with a handy man almost as old as my father. Yes, unfortunately, this is the way we handle harassment in Lebanon.

Submitted by MEIBM

Location:  Fanar, Mount Lebanon

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“At this moment, i noticed that his penis was out. So i said ok, u know what? i will leave now, seems the woman is not coming!”

Well, this happened while i was still a university student. I took a service to go back home from university. A colleague was accompanying me. The driver dropped her on our way and then asked if he can drive up few meters to pick a lady who had called and asked him to take her, as a “taxi”, to Kesrwan. I said ok, no problem if it’s for few minutes.

So the driver went up, parked in front of a building and pretended that he was calling the woman.However, after few minutes he changed the parking spot (given that there was a grocery shop in the building where he had first parked) and parked next to a high concrete plants pot.There he changed his seat and moved to the one that is next to the driver.

At this moment, i noticed that his penis was out. So i said ok, u know what? i will leave now, seems the woman is not coming!!! (i remained somehow calm and haven’t overreacted because i had read about exhibitionists and their expectations).

Though he directly offered to drive me home, i left the car and continued walking until i reached my friend’s place and told her about what happened to me.

I was so shocked even though i had previously faced the same experience three times! I decided to share my story because i believe we need to raise awareness on harassment so that on the one hand harassers recognize that what they are doing is not accepted and on the other people would speak up if they ever face such a situation.

Submitted by Anonymous

Location:  Rawda, Mount Lebanon

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده