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“Be prepared… and be ready to scream! DON’T HOLD BACK!”

I was very young when this incident occurred… but I remember it as if it was yesterday. I was walking home from a sports club up the road just before the IC on bliss street. I always felt safe because the police station is 2 mins away, maghfar hbeich.

My cousin and I were two young teenagers, maybe 15 years old walking up the hill just before dark. Two men were walking towards us as if they were going to walk right past… very normal situation.

Just as they got close to us, one of them grabbed me by the arm and put his hand on my chest and felt and grabbed me then released me seconds later and continued walking as if nothing happened. My cousin was right next to me, but neither of us could speak a word, I couldn’t bring myself to shout, I was so scared.

My advice to anyone reading this is to be aware of what is around you, be prepared for such instances and be ready to scream… if I had uttered a sound, the police would have been there in seconds and this dirty man would never have hurt anyone else.

DON’T HOLD BACK, you have nothing to be ashamed of, they should be locked away so we can have a safe society to live in.

Submitted by L

Location: Maghfar Hbeich, Ras Beirut

Time of harassment:   16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

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Assaulted Verbally in Hamra

As I was walking with two other girls on Sadat street, right in front of Makhfar Hbeish, a guy jumping on his motorcycle said “There’s a boob on the right and a boob on the left!”

Of course, her said that in arabic no need to translate it here though, since it sounds as disgusting as his face!!

Submitted by SA

Location: Sadat Street – Right in front of Makhfar Hbeish, Hamra

Time of harassment:   10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

Sexually assaulted in Hamra twice in one week

I was walking home alone. When I crossed the street near HSBC I noticed a large man staring at me from the other side of the street. I ignored and continued walking.

I ran into someone I know, and stopped to chat briefly, and then continued on my way alone.

As I walked on the sidewalk across from the Hallmark store, behind a parked SUV, the man who had been staring at me sort of lurched at me with his hands in his pants. I yelled, and crossed the street, and watched as he walked away.

That’s twice in one week. A concerning rate; and much more than the three other times a guy’s groped himself near me in public in the past 10 years.

Submitted by SK

Location: Abd el Aziz Street, Hamra

Time of harassment:  20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

Her child was molested at AUB… and they did nothing to catch the guy!

My daughter was playing with the kitties at AUB between the Agriculture building and the gym. A man of around 30 came up to her and asked her if she wanted to go for a walk with him. She said no but he grabbed her butt while touching his own genitals.

He picked her up and started carrying her to an alcove near the stairway. She struggled and kicked him in his groin and she got away. The man ran away.

AUB was totally unprepared to handle such a situation. As soon as my daughter ran to me in the gym and told me the story of what had happened, I ran out and called from the emergency telephone. But the security person on the other end of the phone could not understand my english well enough and spent 30 minutes trying to get the story right.

In the end he told me that I should not leave my child unattended on campus, at which point i spewed a volcanic erruption of profanity and gave up that they would ever catch the guy. O well.

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: American University of Beirut

Time of harassment:  16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

“We yelled, he lurked away… Yelling is not all that satisfying, unfortunately.”

As my friend and I walked to her car, we noticed a man walking up and down the sidewalk near where the car was parked. When we got closer, we realized he was masturbating, with his pants open.

We yelled, he lurked away. We got in the car and left as quickly as possible. Yelling is not all that satisfying, unfortunately.

Submitted by SK

Location: Hamra, between Ain el Mreisseh and Gefinor, on the road that runs up to the Gefinor complex

Time of harassment:  20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

“We can’t be living in a country where it is acceptable for men to do whatever they want to women. We should value ourselves more.”

I was walking to university with my friend. Suddenly i see a very big and tall man leaning over me. He whispered in my ear how he wanted to fondle my breasts and then pinched my butt. I froze because i was so shocked.

My friend pulled my hand and we ran together to the university gate. There were many people on the street. Also, three girls were staring at us in shock. This is one of the few incidents i have encountered.

When i lived in makdisi street,the same men use to shout out the same vulgar remarks everyday. Surprisingly, the darak were the ones that use to harass me the most.

I went to university in beirut and in kaslik. In both universities many professors have the habit of obscenely checking me and other girls out. Last week i was talking to my professor. He is fifty and is married with two kids. While i was talking to him he was staring at my breasts and then cut me off and walked away. I didn’t say anything because i did not want to upset him. Upsetting him might make him fail me. . .

I reached a point were i got used to this behaviour since it is so common and no one will hold them accountable. This is very bad. Something should be done to limit harassment. We can’t be living in a country where it is acceptable for men to do whatever they want to women. We should value ourselves more.

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: Hamra & Kaslik

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

“Since when is a violent threat a segway into sex?”

It all started in the early morning once we left an after party. My girl friend met a guy that took us out with his friend to dance until sunrise. My friend was quite drunk and got into a ‘playful’ face-slapping ‘game’ with her date’s friend. A few minutes after this ‘game’ ended, he gave her another slap, a bit harder. I reacted.

With poor judgment, I slapped him right back across the face and told him never to touch her in the face again. He was aghast. Angry and defensive, he refused to apologize and excused his behavior as a joke. I eventually apologized for the act of slapping him (as I am a proponent of non-violence except in defense), but continued to explain why this is an unacceptable act- slapping anyone in the face- whether you’re kidding or not.

He proceeded to call me a bitch and threaten me about getting slapped in return.

A few weeks later, this guy happens to arrive at the bar I’m in. He greets some people, and proceeds to me. He has a smirk on his face and he greets me with: “Oh, the feminist.” After almost a month has transpired, his ego is still shrunken from our incident.

He tells me I’m going to get slapped and is very confident and proud of his threat. He then tries to converse with me, and actually chats with my friend. She denounces his threats and inquires whether he is serious. Does he really plan to slap me? He laughs. He tells us both that he is not “angry.” Not angry at all.

Instead, he is attracted to me and, when he says he will slap me, he means in bed. He wants to ‘hurt’ me. He wants to ‘teach’ me.

This happened a few weeks ago and I am still aghast at the intersection of sex, violence, power and patriarchy as they developed in this situation. Since when is a violent threat a segway into sex? How is it that this man found it was appropriate to, essentially, threaten me with rape? And publicly no less!

It’s because sex, in this case and in many, is not about pleasure. Rather, in these cases, it is about power and dominance. Although the situation did not begin with conventional forms of sexual harassment as we often define it, our second encounter commenced in sexual harassment and the threat of sexual assault.

The juncture of eroticism and violence is truly, deeply disturbing. And all from a man who swears he marched along with us during the anti-violence demo in June. From a man who ‘believes’ women should have equal rights. A man who considers himself progressive. A man who finds these values and attributes completely in line with his threat of sexual violence.

Submitted by ART

Location: Hamra & Karantina

Time of harassment:  2-6: Late Night / ما بعد منتصف الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده