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Photos of a harasser who thinks “no” means “yes”

I was at Barometre with some friends, hanging out and dancing. I’m a guy so it was me and about 6 or 7 girls dancing in a circle having a good time.

And then, this guy shows up. He came up to one of my friends and asked to dance with her, she said no, and then he persisted and wouldn’t leave her alone. She got mad and then came over the side of the group where I was standing, and I asked what was up. She told me what had happened and I said I could talk to him if she needed, but she said it was fine. Apparently he had kept trying to follow her and would grab her arm, and she was fed up but was happy to be away.

Then he comes up and persistently asks another friend  her name and to dance, and she literally had to yell at him to go away.

Then this guy approaches another of my friends come behind, and persistently demands to dance with her, not taking no for an answer. He grabs her arm and keeps trying to come up behind her, and finally she yells no and walks to other side where I am.

By this point, I’m fucking annoyed. I walk up to him and he doesn’t hear what I say, so he says, “Do you know her? Introduce me to her!”

So I said, “She doesn’t want to dance with you. Please go away and stop talking to us.”

He doesn’t understand at first, so I repeat a few times authoritatively. Then it hits him. And then his eyes turn to fire and he begins cursing at me about fucking me up and sho hay3mel bayro and whatever. And after that, he sits down and stares at me the entire time, waiting for me to leave. He stares, makes gestures to me, and then follows my friends to make sure I don’t leave with them without him being able to physically assault me, as he had explicitly threatened. Obviously I sneak out the back…

Why don’t men understand that “no” means “no”? Get over yourselves and your complexes and get it through your head: If she doesn’t want to talk to you, she DOESN’T want to talk to you. Go away. You’re not as amazing as you think you are and no one else is fooled by your harassment. 7elou3ana!

I sent my friend back in to the bar to take some photographs of this idiot harasser.

Watch out for this kid!

Submitted by Reza

Location: Barometre, Hamra

Time of harassment: 2-6: Late Night / ما بعد منتصف الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

فيديو: خلص برنامج سهرة عندي هاليلي. حجيبك ع قسم الشرطة

هالويك أند رحت عل بحر مع اصحابي بالباص وصار نوع من التحرش الجنسي لوحدي من البنات معنا. رح تكتب صديقتي عن يللي صار معا بلبلوغ. ويللي صار زكرني بفيديو كليب شفتو من زمان وكان بدي شاركو معكن. الفيديو بيحكي عن بنت امريكانية بمترو نيويورك و كيف كانت ردة فعلها القوية لمّا رجّل حاول يتحرش فيا. الفيديو رهيب! بيعطينا مثال كيف فينا نتصرف قدام هيك مشكلة . حضروه واستمتعوا!

الكلمات المترجمة بالعربي تحت.

“فرجيننا ايرك!”

“عم بحكي بجد. و بتعرف شو؟ كنت عم بفكر له في حدا عم بيفشني ولحظت ان عندك فضا كتير حدك وبعدان بشوف ايرو برّه البنطلون!

جلاص رح يعقتلوكز ما حروح من حدك. جلص برنامج سهرة عندي هاليلي. حجيبك ع قسم الشرطة. وينو هالساىْق؟ “

“هالفيديو حيطلع ع يوتوب!”

“جليني اجد صورة ايرو مع كندم!”

اخدنا الفيديو من اصحابنا ihollaback!

“I don’t want to rely on guys sprinting out of nowhere to save me every time someone tries to put their hands on me”

Photo by seyyedreza via Flickr

I was walking home from Hamra one night, around one am. I was alone, but I’d never had problems before. I was a few buildings past Captain’s Cabin when a guy started following me. I have no idea where he came from, the street was pretty deserted. He kept a close distance behind me but I ignored it. After a few seconds he started trying to talk to me. I have no idea what he said, but he was trying to ask me something, and so I crossed the street to get away from him, thinking he’d get the point. He instead followed me to the other side. I picked up my pace but he came right behind me and tried to grab me. I was so shocked and scared that I screamed, really loudly. The entire neighborhood probably heard me. He was shocked too when I did that, so shocked that he jumped like ten feet and when I looked he was in the middle of the street looking at me like I was insane. He started running. I was a bit shaken but mostly just confused when I started walking home again.

Then it got interesting.

After a few seconds I heard men’s voices yelling from up the street, and then I saw three guys sprinting down the street after the man. One of them came right up to me and started speaking to me in Arabic. When I told him I only spoke English he asked me, “Are you OK? Where are you going? Why are you alone?” and I though he was going to escort me all the way home. When we arrived at the small intersection with the green vegetable store, I saw a group of about six guys (where did they come from?!) had the stalker pinned on the ground against a car, he had his hands up and looked extremely nervous talking to them. One of the guys motioned to me, saying Faddali, but I really did not want to get near the scene. He then asked me, “What did he do? What did he do to you?!” I said he just tried to touch me and I got scared. I think they wanted me to stay and oversee the guy getting beat up or whatever, but I said an awkward “Thank You” and kept walking down the hill.

Last I saw, they had him pinned, stomach down, on the pavement with his hands behind his head. On one hand I was impressed with the reaction, it was incredible. On the other, I don’t want to rely on these guys sprinting out of nowhere to save me every time someone tries to put their hands on me. This guy though will think twice before he ever does that again.

Submitted by R.F.M.

Location: Hamra/Manara

Time of harassment: 20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده