“Do you want your reputation to be tarnished? a man would not make this move unless he is ‘invited’!”

I just arrived to the country after many years studying in a European country and after a few years of the end of the war. Full with motivation and enthusiasm, I was lucky to find a job in a governmental institution, where I had to mount a lab. from scratch. Because of that, the presence of a handy man was kind of necessary at all times! so we got used to each other though within the professional limits.It is useful to say that this handy man was very close to the management for his diligent services.

One eid came and he wanted to greet me. I extended my Hand to shake his, but I felt that he did not like this or considered it as not enough for all what he did to my lab (it was his duty). He said: you think I cannot take a kiss from you? I felt it inappropriate to kiss him or simply I did not want to kiss him! He took my hand, pulled it towards him and pulled me with it, tried to kiss me and in the same token touched my breast with his other big hand!!

I ran like a crazy to the the Director’s office. It was obvious from my look, voice and colour that I’ve lived something horrible! but the director tried to undermine it.

I went to the disciplinary council for civil servants where I met a woman and I was still under the shock! May be I have to be grateful that she believed me! She said: Do you want your reputation to be tarnished and be subjected to investigations and Q&As?? you are still a young lady (bint)! Yes, this is how harassment is treated in Lebanon!

when back to the office I was told that the Director subtracted 3 working days from the wage of that handy man! wow! how cheap this harassment was!! I was not able anyway to confirm or see a proof about this.

Later on, I met with the Director General who called me to his office, not to comfort me or kind of apologize! but rather to deepen the knife in me. He said, I do not think a man would make this move unless he is ‘invited’ …. That was another harassment isn’t it?? in my heart I said Tfeh!!

Me, the one who lived in Europe to get my Master degree and PhD, came to Lebanon to express my needs with a handy man almost as old as my father. Yes, unfortunately, this is the way we handle harassment in Lebanon.

Submitted by MEIBM

Location:  Fanar, Mount Lebanon

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

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3 responses to ““Do you want your reputation to be tarnished? a man would not make this move unless he is ‘invited’!”

  1. I totally relate to your story …but having Worked as a legal consultant in UN in Europe we have a lot of these stories going on, only difference is that here, it has great repercussions, and some pple end up by losing their positions …not all mind you but some …it needs better laws and more education

  2. Mohamad Majzoub

    The other side of those harassment stories in this blog as far as I can see it is those girls becoming highly sensitive of anything that appears extra-friendly or a bit fishy in the Lebanese environment like for example being alone in a room with a guy even if the guy doesn’t have any bad intentions.
    And from a normal guy’s perspective, this becomes even funnier. Let’s say for example a guy is talking in front of his friends on how he is tutoring this foreign girl somewhere where they’re alone, they would consider him a dork (ahbal) if he didn’t try to do anything physical with her. So the guys’ environment undermines his moral values to be something of stupidity rather than normal behavior!

  3. I’d like to invite that director general to a good ol’ fashioned ass whooping.

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