Monthly Archives: May 2011

Sexually harassed at work… and told by the company to ignore it!

I am a site civil engineer. When i was assigned this job I was really excited, since for a civil engineer working on site holds great experience. I am the only girl there, the first couple of months i had to put up with my co-workers telling dirty stories with me in the same place.

A 50 year old foreman actually told one of the employees you should talk dirty to your fiancee. girls like that! they pretend not to. bas 7kiyon men l zennar w nezel w shouf kif byenbestou. I yelled and shouted at him but it was in vain.

Most of the engineers on site are very religious so they dont talk to me much except for one and since he was very experienced and I had recently graduated I was excited to work with him.

The harassment didnt start till 4 months after i started working there. from touching whatevr he gets to touch (my back, hands, pretty much whatevr he can touch while passing by me or giving me instructions) three to four times while we are working on our laptops on the same table i caught him playing with himself) he always winks, flirts and says dirty stuff to me.

I made a complaint to my company and they just said ignore him…yea that Will work! I am looking for a new job now, i tried to ignore the whole taboo of not talking abt the harassment to protect myself and it didnt work.

Submitted by S.N.A.

Location: Tripoli- at a construction site

Time of harassment:  10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة

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فيديو: خلص برنامج سهرة عندي هاليلي. حجيبك ع قسم الشرطة

هالويك أند رحت عل بحر مع اصحابي بالباص وصار نوع من التحرش الجنسي لوحدي من البنات معنا. رح تكتب صديقتي عن يللي صار معا بلبلوغ. ويللي صار زكرني بفيديو كليب شفتو من زمان وكان بدي شاركو معكن. الفيديو بيحكي عن بنت امريكانية بمترو نيويورك و كيف كانت ردة فعلها القوية لمّا رجّل حاول يتحرش فيا. الفيديو رهيب! بيعطينا مثال كيف فينا نتصرف قدام هيك مشكلة . حضروه واستمتعوا!

الكلمات المترجمة بالعربي تحت.

“فرجيننا ايرك!”

“عم بحكي بجد. و بتعرف شو؟ كنت عم بفكر له في حدا عم بيفشني ولحظت ان عندك فضا كتير حدك وبعدان بشوف ايرو برّه البنطلون!

جلاص رح يعقتلوكز ما حروح من حدك. جلص برنامج سهرة عندي هاليلي. حجيبك ع قسم الشرطة. وينو هالساىْق؟ “

“هالفيديو حيطلع ع يوتوب!”

“جليني اجد صورة ايرو مع كندم!”

اخدنا الفيديو من اصحابنا ihollaback!

“…يتصرف بطريقة مقرفة”

لم يكن تحرش مباشر و لكن هناك شخص سمين نوعا ما يتنقل على موتور و دائما يلاحق البنات و كلما يراني يتوقف و يبدا بخلع الجزء السفلي من الملابس و يتصرف بطريقة مقرفة

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: al ma3rad

Time of harassment:  10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“شو بدك بهالفضيحة ؟”

كنت بعمر ال 12 وكنت امر كل يوم بالمحل لاشتري الشوكولا فيبدأ صاحب الدكان ,وهو هرم, بلمس يدي كل ما ادفع له, لم اكن ادري ماذا افعل كنت اعتقد انه يلامس يدي عن غير قصد لكن يومابعد يوم بدأ يلامسني ويكلمني عن الامور الجنسية

, اسكت واخاف واخرج من الدكان وكنت كل مرة احاول ان اسكته او اصده عن ملامستي,يهددني ان لم اتي كل اليوم الى دكانه سيقول لابي انني انا من اطلب منه ملامستي وطبعا بسبب الخوف من الاهل والخوف من الفضايح كنت اخاف ان اقول لابي بسبب قيمته الاجتماعية في المنطقة, ظلت الامور هكذا لفترة طويلة الى ان جاء اليوم وصرخت بوجهه وقلت له “ممنوع تلمسني وعمال يللي بدك يا”,

بعدها انتقلنا الى منطقة ثانية و لم يفعل شيئا, لكن اعلم تماما انه يمارس تحرشاته على كل فتاة في المنطقة , كما ان سبب لي اذى نفسي مريع جدا, حاولت اللجوء الى بعض الاشخاص لكي اشتكي عليه او حتى اردت قتله, لم يقبل احدا ان يكلمه, وقالو لي ” شو بدك بهالفضيحة؟” حتى سالت اذا من الممكن ان نـاتي بالدرك الى محله لكن لا حياة لم تنادي!

هي فضيحة لي لانني فتاة , لانني في مجتمع لن يصدقني احدا, لان ابي ذات نفوذ في المنطقة, لانه مجتمع ذكوري بامتياز….على امل ان يوضع حد لهذه المشكلة المتفاقمة

Submitted by Rash

Location: Dahieh / ضاحية

Time of harassment:  16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

Molested on the public bus… by the DRIVER

I was taking a public bus down to Jbail on a sunny Wednesday in the middle of the day (between 12am and 1pm) to go to the beach. Just for the record – I was wearing a black/grey cotton dress with black 3/4 leggings, a black vest with short sleeves and sandals. After telling the driver where I wanted to get off and gesturing towards where I was planning to go he offered to drive me to the other side of the highway as it seemed that he was going back to Beirut after his stop there.

The last person got off where I was planning to as well but I thought there is no harm in accepting his offer. So I thought.. A minute later, when we had stopped, I climbed back from the front seat to go towards the door and tried to open it. – Sitting in the front seat of a public bus. Something I am most likely never to do again! – In an attempt to help as the door didn’t open, the bus driver fiddled with it.

Whilst exchanged places with me in this very small corridor of the bus to – apparently – get a better grip at the door, he slightly touched my bum. A second later the door was open and I left immediately.

When I turned around however, he had his hand in his open trousers working on his Willy and grinning at me with the most disgusting smile I had ever seen. The last thing missing was his saliva dropping out of his mouth. Absolutely disgusted and shocked to the bones, I slowly walked away from the bus, not knowing what to do with myself.

After I had stepped down into the streets of Jbail, just off the highway, I looked up and the bus was gone. It took me a few hours to recover from this experience as well as to pull myself together and start the journey back to Beirut in another public bus. This time, I made sure to follow two other women getting on a semi-filled bus and to sit further in the back.

Submitted by CMF

Location: highway next to Byblos city centre

Time of harassment:  10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“Why do I have to be the one to just keep walking while you do all the talking?! Ask your mother, ask your sister if they appreciate it!”

I was walking home alone from a friend’s place after a night out. I wasn’t wearing anything that could provoke any reaction, simple black (not revealing) top, jeans, and I had already switched from my heels to flats.

I guess simply because it was late and I was a girl on the street, as a car with a few guys in it passed by they made kissing noises at me. It irritated me, and I was feeling particularly ballsy at that moment, so when the car right behind that one drove by and the driver slowed down and shouted, “bonsoir!” at me, I gave him the finger and kept walking. He began to follow me in the car for a block or two, and I was getting nervous and more angry.

I turned and shouted “FUCK OFF!” at him. He stopped the car and got out, “Wait! Why did you do that?”

I angrily turned around: “Don’t you have a mom or a sister?! Do you like it when other men on the street harass them?! Treat me like you would treat your mom or your sister!”

“You’re right, but my mother or sister wouldn’t make that gesture towards me. If they dont like it when someone says something to them, they just keep walking. I was just going to tell you that you are pretty, but the gesture it’s not funny.” he said.

I replied: “But it doesnt make me feel pretty, you would say that to any girl who is walking down the street late at night. And why do you get to be the one to say something, and I just have to put up with it?! Why do I have to be the one to just keep walking while you do all the talking?! Ask your mother, ask your sister if they appreciate it! I just want to be treated like you would treat them!”

He said, “Ok, you are right, you are right, but you dont need to make that gesture….So, can I have your number?”

“NOOO!!!”

Unbelievable.

Submitted by ck

Location: Medical Gate Street/Abd Aziz

Time of harassment: 2-6: Late Night / ما بعد منتصف الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“It’s not such a nice feeling when you suspect a car is following you…”

I was walking down the street with a friend, and a car was driving down the side of the road really slowly. I first thought that the person driving (I never really saw who) wanted to park, so I didn’t think much of it.

When I realized he was not stopping, it started to concern me. It’s not such a nice feeling when you suspect a car is following you. We ignored him (I’m assuming it’s a he) and picked up our pace. He didn’t bother continuing his little game…

Submitted by CI

Location: Abdel Aziz Street, Hamra

Time of harassment: 16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده