Monthly Archives: April 2011

“If I am looking for new nicknames such as Chocolate, Sweety, Asmar or whatever else I shall consult you, until then: F*** off!”

This is something that did not only happen once and not only in one place but in different spots in Beirut and elsewhere. Often while walking in the streets, men amuse themselves with while walking in my direction of coming pretty close, so that I either have to jump to the side so as not to touch them.

Simply that is annoying, I don’t want to be misanthropic, but please, boys, men and gentlemen: If I want my body to touch you, I will let you know. If I want to get shouted at, I will let you know. If I am looking for new nicknames such as Chocolate, Sweety, Asmar or whatever else I shall consult you, until then: F*** off!

Back to the story I was telling. So some of these men have the tendency to come pretty close what as such is annoying, the really disgusting thing is that there seems to be a habit, especially among members of the highly respected military and police, to wait until I am close, then make one, two steps in my direction so as to be very close and sniff. It may not be a big thing, it happens without words, but everytime it happens I feel slighty violated. Do not ever sniff me.

Submitted by LH

Location: Zaydanieh

Time of harassment: 20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“It SERIOUSLY felt like rape, it was practically moral rape considering the things he said”

I was walking back home (I live in the area near Concorde) from hamra with a friend at around 11 pm when we see a man, a seemingly drunk one in his 50s at least, with his hands around the crotch area. At first we figured nature called as it always does with males who feel free to urinate just about anywhere in this country; but we were still kinda scared considering it was pretty dark and deserted.

As we got closer (we had to pass by him), he, for some reason, felt it was ok for him to expose his penis to us. He then began to walk towards us with his hands on his thing while saying some of the most obscene stuff I’ve heard. My friend immediately started running while I chose to ignore him and walk a bit faster (I realized he couldn’t catch up with us considering he was pretty wasted or high). We were terrified and angry at the same time I just didn’t know what to do though I reallyyyy wish I could’ve punched him or something.

The incident still pisses me off but I’m a small person so there really isn’t much I can do in terms of physical defense. It SERIOUSLY felt like rape! it was practically moral rape considering the things he said actually!

Some time afterwards, just as I was getting over that incident, I encountered another similar situation. This time it was around 2pm in the middle of the day with people around. I was also walking back home and I was like 2 steps away from my house when I passed by a man with his hands again in the same area. I just looked away and kept walking. He started following me and saying things again. I just kept walking looking confident and completely ignoring him though I was worried he’d see me walk into the building or follow me inside; but he stopped half way, turned around, and walked back to where he was. I always wonder if that was the same guy I had seen before especially that the two areas where the incidents occurred are pretty close but I can’t seem to remember any of the men’s (or man’s) features.

Submitted by CN

Location: Hamra/Verdun

Time of harassment: 20-2: Night / الليل
10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“I have a right to a safe space where I don’t have to feel objectified and sexualized just because I exist”

I live on top of a restaurant with valet. This means that at any time of the day (and until around 2 AM) there will be a few guys hanging out in front of my apartment, waiting for people to walk by. This also means that, of course, the space in front of my apartment is a space where these men feel completely comfortable harassing me EVERYTIME I walk by.

Today, over dinner with my roommates I mentioned the problem I had and how embarrassing and frustrating it was to be harassed every single time I walked in or out of my apartment. It shouldn’t have surprised me when two of my roommates revealed that they two were CONSTANTLY verbally harassed on a DAILY basis by these men.

I have the right to walk to and from my house without being verbally assaulted just because of how I look. And I have a right to have my own fucking street be a safe space for me where I don’t have to feel objectified and sexualized just because I exist.

I want to confront one of the guys and take a video. If I succeed, I’ll post it. Wish me luck in doing something about this virtual imprisonment!

Submitted by RK

Location: Manara

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“I hope I scared the shit out of the kid and he won’t harass women anymore”

I was walking with a blonde female colleague of mine on a crowded street and I heard whistling behind us. Usually my presence seems to give men the impression that harassing the woman I am walking with is not okay (versus otherwise when apparently she’s an open target), so I was pretty surprised and turned around to see two 6-year olds walking behind us, pretending to look the other way. I glared, and continued walking.

After about 10 seconds, and another [meek] whistle, one of the boys approached my colleague on the right and began practicing English- “Hello, where you from?” etc.

I took the opportunity to start yelling at his friend about whether this was the proper way to approach someone on the street and how he should be ashamed to act like some animal and make noises at women when they were walking by. When confronted, the boy insisted it was his friend who whistled, and so I turned my yelling at his friend as well. After about a minute they skulked off in shame…

But it was so frustrating to me that the only men I felt I could take my anger out on were children!! All the anger and frustration I build up from seeing things happen and hearing about it boils inside until some helpless kid who’s copying older guys gets to be my target. I hope I scared the shit out of the kid and he won’t harass women anymore, but it’s frustrating to me that I don’t know how else to confront men for their behavior, as a fellow man. Talking about the issue constantly with male friends and yelling at 6-year-olds appear to be my main releases at the moment… suggestions?

Submitted by RS

Location: Sabra

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“You’re being inappropriate, get back in your car.”

My roommates and I were walking to a party around 10 pm. A guy in a car pulled up and tried to talk to us. We ignored him and continued walking. He kept on saying “I just have one question”. Finally he drove off and we thought it was done, but he had just gone around the block. He started to follow us again. He then abruptly stopped the car in the road and got out and started walking towards us. I’m a pretty small person, but both of my rommmates are younger than me and I feel responsible for them. So as he started towards us, I told him in a firm and loud voice “You’re being inappropriate, get back in your car.” He kept trying to talk but I kept repeating that phrase till finally he stopped, got back in his car and drove off. It was pretty ridiculous to talk to a grown man like he was a four-year-old I was scolding, but it worked. Getting out of your car and basically running at a group of women? Grow up.

Submitted by AW

Location: Manara

Time of harassment: 20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“As if I were a dog.”

Photo by Lindsay_NYC via Flickr

I had to go to the airport, so got up late at night to meet my friends in front of AUB. Two guys in a car, slow down and start whistling and making strange noises. As if I were a dog. At some point they start offering me money.

“Khamseen dollar? Khamseen dollar?” F***ing idiots, I had a suitcase with me, I’m not a specialist, but which prostitute does that.When we approached AUB they stopped. Because yes, those who harass love doing it, but as soon as someone might judge them (as an AUB security guard) they behave themselves perfectly!

Submitted by LH

Location: Ain Mreisse

Time of harassment: 2-6: Late Night / ما بعد منتصف الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

“I don’t want to rely on guys sprinting out of nowhere to save me every time someone tries to put their hands on me”

Photo by seyyedreza via Flickr

I was walking home from Hamra one night, around one am. I was alone, but I’d never had problems before. I was a few buildings past Captain’s Cabin when a guy started following me. I have no idea where he came from, the street was pretty deserted. He kept a close distance behind me but I ignored it. After a few seconds he started trying to talk to me. I have no idea what he said, but he was trying to ask me something, and so I crossed the street to get away from him, thinking he’d get the point. He instead followed me to the other side. I picked up my pace but he came right behind me and tried to grab me. I was so shocked and scared that I screamed, really loudly. The entire neighborhood probably heard me. He was shocked too when I did that, so shocked that he jumped like ten feet and when I looked he was in the middle of the street looking at me like I was insane. He started running. I was a bit shaken but mostly just confused when I started walking home again.

Then it got interesting.

After a few seconds I heard men’s voices yelling from up the street, and then I saw three guys sprinting down the street after the man. One of them came right up to me and started speaking to me in Arabic. When I told him I only spoke English he asked me, “Are you OK? Where are you going? Why are you alone?” and I though he was going to escort me all the way home. When we arrived at the small intersection with the green vegetable store, I saw a group of about six guys (where did they come from?!) had the stalker pinned on the ground against a car, he had his hands up and looked extremely nervous talking to them. One of the guys motioned to me, saying Faddali, but I really did not want to get near the scene. He then asked me, “What did he do? What did he do to you?!” I said he just tried to touch me and I got scared. I think they wanted me to stay and oversee the guy getting beat up or whatever, but I said an awkward “Thank You” and kept walking down the hill.

Last I saw, they had him pinned, stomach down, on the pavement with his hands behind his head. On one hand I was impressed with the reaction, it was incredible. On the other, I don’t want to rely on these guys sprinting out of nowhere to save me every time someone tries to put their hands on me. This guy though will think twice before he ever does that again.

Submitted by R.F.M.

Location: Hamra/Manara

Time of harassment: 20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده